Driving around you may notice a host of Christian bumper stickers, from Jesus fish to "Know Jesus, know Jesus. No Jesus, no peace," etc. One particularly fun one states "God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve." Putting aside the interpretation of Genesis as a literal/historical event, why make the fuss? I have yet to see any anti-divorce stickers, or anti-adultery ones. They may be out there, but they are far less common. This begs the questions: is being gay more wrong than other sins? In our current more tolerant cultural, we may even ask: is being gay wrong at all? If so why? Why is it really any different than being straight? Yes, there are some obvious physiological differences, but how does that translate into a moral difference? Of course, the matter is not so much about "being" as it is "doing." Sin is not an ontological state, but an action. We enter enter the category of sinner through the doing of sin, a category that St Paul clearly states that we ALL fall into. Yet homosexuality seems to be an obsession for many in the evangelical community, so much so that laws are being passed to give Christians an opt out for dealing with gay couples. Not only is this just bad PR, and hurtful to the people who are being mistreated, but when we understand righteousness as love, and sin as unlove, the rational for putting gay folks in the "out" category disappears. Looking at the nature of sin through the teachings of Jesus, and supplementing them with the work of John Wesley, as well as the more classical privation theory will lead us to the conclusion that gay marriage is a viable option for Christians.
Throughout the life of the Church, Christians have thought about moral theory, evil, and sanctification in several ways. Currently, at least in North American Protestantism, a common, though overly simplified, way of thinking about such things is the command theory. God says it, therefore, do it. This way seeks to remove any rational motivation behind the command. The command is simply a matter of God's arbitrary will. Who are we to question God? This view is popular with those who strongly emphasize the sovereignty of God, such as Calvinists. Serious biblical scholars and theologians have always rejected this way of thinking. It is poorly thought through and shows an unwillingness to think critically. Rather than God's arbitrary will, Trinitarian Christians have confessed that God acts out of love. We are created to participate in the Triune love of God, and all that God does is for our benefit, that we might find greater joy and wholeness in who we are and what we do. God's will is never arbitrary, but extends from God's nature as Love.
In the Gospels, we are given two great commands that provide an abstract for the whole of the Jewish law, love God and love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22:28-29). We do this in imitation of God. Because God loves, we love also, and in love we are perfected (Matthew 5:43-48). I John 2:9-11 tells us that we live in the light—we are faithful—when we love others. When we do not love others, we are in darkness. Putting these verses together, we understand faithfulness as loving others is a matter of imitating God. Unfaithfulness is hating—or simply not loving—others. Righteouness/Justice (the same word in Greek) is then a matter of loving others, while sin is constituted by those actions which are not loving others. But what does it mean to love others? Well, the New Testament tells us that it involves caring for orphans, widows, and strangers, that it involves feeding, providing, water, and clothes for those in need, tending to the sick, visiting the imprisoned, praying for our enemies, and giving money to the poor. All of these acts are other-centered. Loving some one means doing what is in their interest, to consider the interests of the other as equal with one's own interests. Why else would Jesus say to love your neighbor as yourself? You must show as much love to the other as you do for yourself. Loving others in a way that takes their emotional, physical, and spiritual well being seriously is what we are called to through faithful Christian living. It is only when we neglect these things, when we do things that compromise the physical, emotional, and spiritual well being of others that we sin, that we miss the mark.
John Wesley, the 18th-century evangelist who founded the Methodist church, was a man ahead of his time in many ways. He jogged regularly; he didn't drink because he thought it a waste of grain that could otherwise feed people, and he was a vegetarian. He was also the founder of an idea that came to be called “Christian Perfection.” This was and still is a controversial idea. He simply believed that through a life of devotion one could completely put off sin, arriving at a place where one no longer sinned. This may seem strange at first—and may even summon ideas of fundamentalists who shun movies, zippers, and dancing—but the idea is quite simple. Wesley said that Christian perfection was reached by perfectly loving others. For Wesley, sanctification, what we often call holiness, is to love others fully and completely. What a beautiful idea, an idea that, unfortunately, seems rather uncommon in the Church. In complete agreement with our previous finding, we see that there is mainstream support for the idea of love as faithfulness, but not just faithfulness, but sanctification. We must be perfect as God is perfect (Matthew 5:48), but such perfection is a perfected love, a transcending of selfishness. To his credit, I believe Wesley did this quite well. He was highly involved in and influential in the abolitionist movement in England, and though he had received great wealth through the sale of his many writings, he gave the money away as quickly as he received it. An English gentleman, he was known to go door to door on Christmas eve and beg for money for the poor, something completely unheard of for some one of his status. We would do well to look to him as a fairly contemporary example of Christian living.
In the days since Kant, many have viewed evil as being radical, as having substance, or being a positive force. Such thinking allows us to say people are evil, for example, a way of thinking that may have evolved out of the Reformed tradition and Calvin's notion of total depravity, that humans are wholly without goodness apart from God's grace, an idea that ultimately makes no sense, but that's another discussion. Prior to the rise of this theory, the church held to the notion that evil is nothing, a lack of good, which is the norm since creation, though fallen, is good, the handy work of a good God. The logic of this argument is simple, every act, everything we do, is motivated by some sort of good end that we seek, whether real or seeming. Desire alone proves this. We do not desire what is not good, though, again, the particular good of a particular action may simply appear good and may actually be bad. In this way, we do not directly will evil, but evil occurs—as something we do, not something we are--when we emphasize a lesser good over a greater good. For example, when we steal we are seeking something good, whether an item that will increase pleasure or money that can be used to buy things that increase pleasure or just help us survive. However, when we emphasize our desire for these things, the good of the pleasure we experience from this object, at the expense of another's good, their own pleasure from an item that they have earned or may need, then the good is deprived and evil occurs. So here, we again arrive at the conclusion that we sin when we fail to consider the interests of others. Let's do another example, if we take a life we are clearly depriving another of his or her good. This doesn't mean we aren't seeking some good in the process. We may be seeking power, wealth, release of anger, or to right a wrong. None of these are inherently bad; however, when we emphasize any of these goods against the good of a person's right to live (by which we are saying that it is right that they live), we do evil. We sin. The same arguments apply to all traditional ways of thinking about sin . . . well, almost all.
All of the preceding discussion has been to lead us to the point where we can say that faithfulness is a matter of considering the interests of others as equal with our own, and that sin is a matter of neglecting the interests of others, harming them either directly or indirectly. The Bible's teachings, as understood through Jesus' paradigm of love, Wesley's extraction of the principle of love applied to sanctification, and privation theory, held by many theologians today, and by nearly all prior to the Reformation all direct us to this conclusion. So what's the point? There is one traditional moral position that does not fit these arguments. When we look at murder, rape, adultery, incest, most theft, lying, and so on, we see that the result is the occurrence of evil and harm of the other. Their may be times though that we steal from those who have more than enough to provide basic survival needs for ourselves or others, or that we lie to protect others from injustice or persecution. There is a sense in which the right thing to do is determined by the context. This is called situational ethics. Though we may at first be offended by the idea that morality is not rigorously absolute, we already believe this. For example, many people who oppose abortion support the death penalty (I do not, however, and think a great argument against it is that Jesus himself was unjustly sentenced to death by the government). The rightness of taking a life for them is determined by the context. It is not okay to kill a baby, but it is okay to kill a murderer. So, given that traditional ethics are supported by the theory we have been developing, why bring it up at all if it changes nothing? Because it changes something important for a specific group of people. You see, homosexual sex does not fit in here. Homosexual sex is no more harmful than heterosexual sex. It does not harm others or neglect their good. When we engage in loving sex within the committed context of marriage (another example of contextual ethics) we are doing something wonderful and pleasurable, something that expresses physically the way two people feel emotionally. And in the union of two, sometimes a new life is made, an expression of love created to be loved. It is very trinitarian. Far from alienating homosexuals, the Church needs to embrace them, even performing illegal weddings, blessed by the Church, but not the state, though we should work for justice in the legal system as well.
The gay community has suffered a lot, probably much of it at the hands of Christians, but it is the Christians, not the homosexual community that has been in the wrong. While I think logic forces us to admit that homosexual behavior constitutes a psychological or biological abnormality (whether people choose or are born, which seems to be some of each), that doesn't mean that it is morally wrong. Of course, gay sex can be exploitative and selfish, but so can straight sex. If sex between a man and woman is not inherently sinful (hint: it's not), then neither is sex between two men or two women. Many will object to this and may call me all sorts of names, but I believe that I proved my point by looking at the Church's own texts, traditions, and leaders. May we seek justice, putting aside prejudice, and embracing the gay community with the love of God in Christ.